Personal Upgrades - Page 2

13) Watch movies that are inspirational, especially the ones on our list. They're all good, however, there are some inspirational ones that are not on the list because they have little or nothing to do with meeting women. One in particular is "The Shawshank Redemption", an amazing movie about a man's triumph over unbeatable odds. Another for me was "Rules of Engagement" this hit home for me. I was a Marine in Somalia, and a lot of what happened in that movie and in "Blackhawk Down", I could identify with. They use honor and camaraderie, and these two things have always played a big role in my everyday life. If you are so inclined, I will be more than happy to address any questions concerning the military. I was a machine gunner for the Marines, my middle brother was in the Army (artillery), the youngest guards a submarine base and is a Marine as well. So you can get the straight scoop the military here too.

14) Live for the day! (another great movie, "Dead Poets Society") You never know when it will all be over, don't put off your dreams. There's time in the day to move towards your goals, all you have to do is put down the remote, cut down your gaming time and you can make it happen. I could be playing 1942 right now but instead, I'm here plugging away on this keyboard. Sharing the things I had to learn the hard way so other guys can take the fast track to happiness.

15) Watch Clint Eastwood movies, I shouldn't have to explain why, he rocks! I'm listening to Unforgiven right now while I work, how's that for inspiration. Eastwood is a mysterious observer, waiting for the perfect time to make his move (more times than not). In his westerns primarily, you find him using the steps in the approach to size up the situation before going in half cocked. There are lessons everywhere, you just need to take the time to see and hear them.

16) Spend time with old people. If you're lucky enough to still have your grandfather around, sit down and talk to him about what times were like when he was young. You'll learn a lot and just wait and see how girls will react when they hear about this experience. The girl part is just a bonus here, there's real value to find out about the past. As the saying goes "those ignorant of the past will be forced to repeat it". You will also see that something's haven't changed that much and their experience may help you with issues you face today.

17) Take care of a pet, this will teach you a lot about dealing with people in life and with dealing with women. A lot of the techniques are the same, women and animals both need the same things; patience, love, understanding, attention and care. This is one of those steps you need to focus on, don't attempt to juggle to many things while attempting this, it is a big job.

18) Make something, it could be a painting, a car, a tool box, a meal, it doesn't matter but create something. The sense of accomplishment is amazing, any fool can run to the store and purchase an item of interest. A man of substance can evoke greatness out of nothing (this is a reach, but you can see where I'm going). It is just another step in creating depth to your character.

19) Take chances, gamble, invest, but put it on the line every now and then. It keeps you alive, living responsibly is great, but you'll always regret those chances you didn't take and it usually involves women. This doesn't mean you need to throw caution to the wind, It means that you need to balance passion with reason. It's about the balance, I don't believe I can print it better.

20) Lower your walls, we have all been taken advantage of at some point in our lives. The thing you must remember, is that in the morning you're still the good person and what goes around comes around, they'll get there's. Lowering yourself to the unscrupulous behavior of others will just destroy the possibility of you living your life to its fullest. Revenge is sweet, I know, but it rarely makes things better.

21) Identify your strengths and weaknesses, you will never evolve into something better without this step. We all have them, the problem with most people, is the fact that they never take time to really know themselves. They spend their time finding things and people to blame for their failure and never realize the real events that lead to their failures. The knowledge of yourself will make you very powerful, it forces you to deal with realities and improve on them. The longer one lives in the dark, the more inclined they become to stay there.

22) Buy a motorcycle, a high percent of women love them. Make sure you practice riding someone on the back before taking her out. You're trying to impress her, not kill her. Motorcycles are a universal sign of freedom and are the single biggest icon of the rebel. Not to mention the fact that they are fun as hell, dangerous as hell to boot. Important note with motorcycles is it's not if you go down, it's when you go down! You will, I've been down 4 times, once at over sixty with no helmet. Yes, I know I'm lucky or blessed.

23) Listen, this is the only way to learn anything about anyone or anything. You don't learn very much when your rambling away. This is also a good tool in judging people, most people feel in control if they are the ones talking, this couldn't be further from the truth. When they're talking you're the one learning and picking up their strengths and weaknesses. The one asking the questions is truly in charge of how the conversation will develop. You must practice to refrain from dominating the conversation and noting information revealed during this period. If you can develop this you will be able to analyze this like you do in the approach.

24) Travel, even if it isn't far away. Going to new places and meeting new people will help you interact with strangers. After all, that's what you'll be to most girls you approach, so learn that role. Get comfortable in places outside of your comfort zone, that's the key here.

25) Learn about wine, I swear there's almost enough information on wine to be able to major in it. You don't need to know all the in's and out's, but have a general understanding of it (i.e. what wines go with what foods, this will impress women).