Approaching the Female

The approach can be the most unsettling, especially if you don't have much experience with it. Confidence will carry you 80% of the time, so see the confidence section. Below are steps to take and futher breakdown of these individual steps.

1. In every event, situation dictates! There is no one perfect way to approach a woman. There are always variables, such as location, the type of girl, your friends and hers. The best way to keep the edge is to evaluate the event: A) Is the target (target = the girl you are after) having fun? B) Is she with friends? Are all of them male? C) Is she married? (Is she wearing a wedding band?) You should approach this subject like a secret agent, gathering as much information as possible before your attack. More things to look for, D) Is she drinking? E) Is she looking around for people or at any one person specifically? F) Is she participating in any activities? G) How is she dressed? (cheap? classy?) H) How's her build (athletic, voluptuous?). I)what body language is she expressing. Then finally, J) review your data K) evaluate your notes and compare with your buddy (2 sets of eyes are better than one) L) checklist before your approach M) make your move.

This will take some practice to do on the scene but lets break it down.

A) If she's not having fun? Note that for your icebreaker, it can now be something simple like; "Hey, it doesn't look like you have experienced the wild {choose a drink}. Give it a shot. You'll love it! Hey I'm {your name}" or "Hello, I'm {your name}. I've been placed in charge of showing you a good time tonight. Have you ever done a body shot?" You can go to the icebreakers section for more detailed information.

B) Is she with friends? Take some time to see if she is a key figure (meaning, do the people in her group come see her before they do anything?). If she is, you'll have to find a way to unite her group and yours. Doubles shooting pool works well. If she isn't a key figure, you should be able to treat her normally. Always try to include at least one of her friends, this will make her more comfortable.

C) Wedding band? This is a morale choice. I stay clear, but it's your world. Happy hunting!

D) Is she drinking? This is a good one for many of reasons. It will determine a lot of things. It will let you know if she is the driver for the night, if she will be interested in one of your fun drink ideas, and if she's out to have a good time. If she is the DD (designated driver), it would be best to move on unless you're just looking for a number and some polite conversation.

E) Is she looking around? If she's doing this a lot, it means she's not content with her current company or situation. You might be what she's looking for right now. This is helpful if she's being hit on by some guy. You will know before he does, that he struck out. Note: If she is doing this when you talk to her, she's not taking the bait, so move on! If you have not read our entire site, read on. We'll teach you the tricks to gaining her attention and keeping it.